So I've been asked how we went from having a destination wedding to having a traditional ceremony. It all started with a conversation with my daughter. We were talking on our way to her cheerleading practice one day, and she says (out of the blue) "Mommy, can I be in your wedding?" I was shocked, because I just assumed she had no concept of a wedding, being in a wedding, or anything like that. So I decided to see where the conversation took us. I asked her what she wanted to be, and she said a flowergirl...then she said she wanted to dress like me, and started actually talking about what she was going to wear, do, etc in the wedding. I saw how her face lit up while talking, and it just completely changed my though process. Initially, the LOML and I wanted the time to be completely about us. After all the years and finally getting it right, we deserved to have this time and day totally to ourselves. But having this conversation with my daughter made me realize that there were 3 little people that we'd be totally leaving out of this day. 3 little people that I really feel need to see this process and be a part of the process. See, both the LOML and I have children (by other people), and are single parents, but I'm determined to break that with my daughter, and want to be a positive influence on his children, showing them all how love and marriage can be a wonderful and fulfilling thing- if done correctly.
So after having this revelation, I sent him an email asking him how would he feel about us forgoing the Hawaii thing, and having a wedding ceremony.
**Sidenote, this email was sent out a few days after my mom came to visit, and made mention to us having the wedding in my hometown, in her backyard...No pressure, she said- just a suggestion.**
So his response was "What ever you want to do. The power of your mother is unbelievable". So I got a little offended, and said screw it! But I'd already started thinking about having this nice (SIMPLE) ceremony, with us, the kids, and the people we love sharing the moment with us. I decided to let the attitude cool off, then have another conversation with him. This time he was more receptive, and genuine when he said "It's your day and I want you to have no regrets, so what ever you want to do is fine with me"....... SO there it is we are having a wedding!!!!!!! and hence, my obsessing over dresses, colors, location, etc....
We have a date! We have colors! We have dresses! We have a location! I think I've got a pretty good start on this....Now I just need to get on the diet and exercise plan so that I can actually order my dress in January but that's a whole OTHER story!
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You will have no regrets as long as you and Garry follow your heart. Family is so important during such a moment as this. It takes a great deal of courage and a lot of woman to "break the cycle" and understand how to do just that. You and Garry's story is a testament to how love endures and is patient. I am happy for you both and would not miss it for the world. FYI - I am just learning how to blog to so forgive the occassional mishaps that may occur
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